like damn how hard is it to say “boyfriend” “love of my life” etc. instead of bae how hard it is to say “you look good!” instead of werk or slay how hard is it to literally go back to the way you spoke before it became cool to talk like black people
like im so young and have not even covered the tip of the iceberg of shaping my identity but im supposed to also worry about forging a relationship with a guy too? who most likely doesn’t know tf he wants? thats too much
i turn any potential love i have inward i can’t share that with a man yet
It’s within my experience, and the experience of at least a dozen trans women of color that I know, that we are the first to be disposed of in intimate relationships. By “dispose,” I mean when life gets hectic for our partner(s), we are the ones who take the least priority and are the first “stressor” to be cut off. This is definitely an acceptable thing to do when someone is genuinely having their life fall apart and cannot maintain a relationship, so I am not advocating that every person stay in a relationship with a trans woman. I’m simply noting a theme that has been true for me and many trans women I’ve talked to about intimate relationships.
I mean, what reason could you have for breaking up with us but maintaining a relationship (sexual, romantic, or a mixture of both) with other people? If your life is in shambles, wouldn’t it make sense to not be with anyone? Why are trans women the first to be cut off, and the only people to be cut off?
Brielle Nicole Williams. Twenty One. NYC based. Trans Girl, Femme, She/Her pronouns. lowly paid retail worker by day & Fashion Student @ Parsons The New School for Design by night. Freelance Stylist & Writer by trade. UNAPOLOGETICALLY BLACK, TRANS AND Queer.
oh, and this is what I look like.