Innocent Trans Women


One reason that so many people claim to value protecting trans women, but won’t go to bat when it comes time to follow through, is that they’re actually only interested in protecting hypothetical, innocent trans women. What these people fail to acknowledge is that, by definition, innocent trans women do not exist. Under patriarchy, “trans woman” and “innocent” are opposing concepts - we are defined as wellsprings of male violence even though, and because, we are some of its primary targets. Trans womanhood is a kind of alchemy that transforms violence committed against us into violence committed by us.

Nine year old trans girls forced to use men’s restrooms at school, homeless trans women forced to stay in men’s housing at shelters, activist trans women driven from “queer” or “women’s” community spaces, incarcerated trans women in men’s lockup or solitary, that isolated trans woman in your area who you’ve heard of but avoid because you’ve heard rumors that she’s “fucked up,” “predatory,” or “crazy” - these articulations of transmisogyny share in common a (partial) basis of defining trans women and our bodies as inherently violent, effectively displacing the blame for male violence onto its victims. This has two consequences. First, by defining trans women as perpetrators of male violence, it also defines us as worthy targets for it. Second, the actual perpetrators and beneficiaries of male violence, men (in this case, especially trans men), are freed from scrutiny (as an aside, this is part of how there are so many aggressively heterosexual TWEFs - you know who you are, lol).

To be a trans woman is to be called rapist as you are raped, batterer as you are beaten, and abuser as you are abused. It is the paradox of being utterly destroyed by the very violence that you are said to embody.

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To be a happy person, one has to drop all comparison. Drop all these stupid ideas of being superior and inferior. You are neither superior nor inferior. You are simply yourself! There exists no one like you, no one with whom you can be compared. Then, suddenly, you are at home. Osho (via yogachocolatelove)

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made an appointment to get my top + bottom wisdom teeth removed 

the appointment isn’t until like late august

I can’t take off of work at this point. I can deal with the pain with ibuprofen until then, i guess

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the thing is, even if you know 1 black person or 100 black people or 100,000 black people that don’t care about racism and supposedly aren’t emotionally invested in it being harmful at all, how on earth can you think that it makes sense that that would have anything to do with how other Black people react to racism…??? we don’t just react to racism based on like taking note of how other Black people do.. there is no emperor of Black people. we’re all complex unique individuals that have our own feelings, and if it hurts my personal individual feelings and i cuss you out, that’s my right.. i don’t care if a Black guy at your school doesn’t care or calmly explains racism. what the hell does that have to do with me?? why would that have anything to do with someone else because they’re also black?

I’m black and I prefer pretzel sticks to pretzels does that mean all Black people should now????????????

i could say the same thing : “i know a white guy who actually cares about other people and their feelings, especially about something as harmful and important as racism that wants a critical understanding about racism and educates himself about race theory. and he doesn’t try to silence Black people or control how they react to racism by telling Black people they need to react calmly and never encourage white people to critically think” and it doesn’t make you racists wanna do shit, so like…….????

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my sis is comming back to NYC.

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girl: fuck me daddy

me: uhm…ok…m…mommy

girl: what the fuck

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There are over 526 million black women in the world, all with different appearances, and your racist ass is going to say not liking black women is a ‘preference’, when the only damn thing they all got in common physically is their blackness? Sure, honey. 

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Marrying young is not the end of my freedom. It means I want to travel and see the world, but with her by my side. It means I still like drinking in bars and dancing in clubs, but stumbling home with her at 2am and eating pizza in our underwear. It means I know that I want to kiss those lips every morning, and every night before bed. If you see marriage as the end of your ‘freedom’, you’re doing it wrong.

Well this was just beautiful

you’re gonna be working 9-5 tired as fuck, arguing with your wife, dealing with taxes, insurance, and bills, facing a 50% of divorce, maybe the possibility of kids, let’s not forget the lack of sex that will probably affect your marriage. don’t fucking glamorize marriage when you’re probably still in high school. the world isn’t that cute so sorry to burst your little bubble. life ain’t easy and married couples do not sit in bed, eating shit all day.

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But yes, even more fab news:

somebody sent me seasons 4-7 of the TV dramedy The Game 

so yeah


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I IMMEDIATELY got to googling!!!!

I feel like I need to snatch that up really soon before it gets taken by 14 year old yt girls everywhere

it comes with a chain too 



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Things I need to have before the fall gets here:

ASOS Smart Leather Look Holdall // $66.69 

Chanel Perfume Bottle iPhone 5/5s Case // $34.99

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I am a woman. I am a trans woman. I am biologically female. Don’t like it? Tough shit. I define my body, not you.

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