heyfranhey:

Why We’re Attracted To People Who Are Wrong For Us

Mind Body Green writes:

I’m asked this question all the time: "Why am I attracted to people who are wrong for me?" And the answer is quite simple, actually:

Because your wounded self is doing the attracting.

Now, I know the term “wounded self” can sound a little intense, so let me explain. We all have two selves: the “little self” (or the wounded self, the ego) and the “Spiritual Self” (the higher self, adult self, or soul).

The wounded self is the part of you that feels incomplete. It questions your worth and value; it doesn’t feel whole, or it feels flawed in some way. My wounded self is the “little me” who wonders if I’m truly lovable.

On the other hand, we also have a Spiritual Self. This is your higher self, your soul. It’s the part of you that’s connected to love, truth, wisdom and peace within. Your Spiritual Self knows, without a doubt, how lovable and valuable you are. In many ways, it’s the opposite of the ego.

At any given time, we are operating from one of these two selves. Many of us, unfortunately, operate from the viewpoint of the ego most of the time. That is, we believe we’re insignificant and powerless in some way, and we’re trying to make up for this lack.

The ego looks for things on the outside to find validation and completion. It believes once it gets more (money, a better partner, a better job, a better house, more vacations, etc…) it will finally be happy.

But … it’s never happy. Not for long, anyway. Because the ego’s very nature is to feel incomplete. Therefore when you live through the perspective of your ego, you’re destined to feel like something’s missing. Life through this lens is not very fun.

The ego gets highly activated when it comes to romantic relationships, because relationships are where we hold the most wounding.

Read the rest here.

howtobeafuckinglady:

howtobeafuckinglady:

howtobeafuckinglady:

howtobeafuckinglady:

howtobeafuckinglady:

sucking dick like it’s band camp

sucking dick like it’s band camp

sucking dick like it’s band camp

sucking dick like it’s band camp

sucking dick like it’s band camp

roborenard:

absolutely destroy the idea that you have to be loved romantically and love romantically

destroy the idea that the end goal of life is to get into a romantic relationship/marriage

romantic love isn’t a requirement to live life and it never will be

zootedboy:

*throws in big words mid sentence so u know i fuck wit books*

jackknifechelicerae:

If I’ve learnt anything from my contact with the bdsm community, the poly community, the geek community and the atheist community is that any social group who claims to “not to be like other groups” and to be”accepting and safe for all” is going to spend a lot of energy hiding the predators within the community and silencing abuse survivors.

baddiebey:

*black woman is sexual*
*black woman explicitly states that they’re doing it for themselves and nobody else*
*white feminist pulls up in their white feminist mini van blaring iggy azalea*
*adjusts their tina fey inspired frameless glasses* Ummmmmmmmm im uncomfortable with you doing that it makes me feel as if you’re pandering to the male gaze you should be more in control of your image sweetie:)

ledzeppelinhair:

rap’s not really my thing but when classic rock fans shit on it cos it “is only about sex and drugs”
like
have you ever listened to classic rock

My self esteem is heating up the room. You’re intimidating as all hell, but I ain’t scared of you.
Jessica Lea Mayfield (Our Hearts Are Wrong)
filed under: love that song

bellecosby:

bellecosby:

White people who stay in their lane tend to age well

Jennifer Aniston (45)

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Paul Rudd (45)

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Mariska (50)

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all white people who are stayin in their lane and ain’t crackin 

filed under: CACKLING

thisbridgecalledmyback:

if a guy never reblogs pics of black girls it’s not just a coincidence 💁

breathing into my chamomile soup. #littlesickthings

riseofthecommonwoodpile:

Anyways I think we should outlaw ironic acoustic covers of hip-hop songs

bussyforlunch:

i’ve seen parts of the bible in patois, and besides being super confusing, it was really disappointing. i was hoping it would get me hyped like

"AN PON DAY THREE, JESUS A RAISE FROM HIM TOMB DEH

ANA HOL PLACE A SHELL WEH, NUH BLOODCLAAT

ANA PEOPLE DEM A RAVE AN DRINK INA STREET, ANA BUSS OUT JUDAS BADMIND HEAD *AIRHORN*

CA JESUS NUH DEAL WID NUH RASSCLAAT FAKE FREN, JESUS NUH BLOODCLAAT RAMP

*AIRHORN**AIRHORN**AIRHORN*

RAEEE RAEEEEEE

CLAAAAAAT CLAAAAT

amen”

but nah. none of that.

filed under: what lol?

bluedogeyes:

Black-ish 01x01 - Pilot

gorlt:

Me: Rihanna ft Drake “What’s My Name?”

you: Areola Venti ft Macdonalds “The Way”

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